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Guo Da Li

I have not been blogging for the past few weeks because I was overwhelmed with work and tons of reports to write. December is usually the slack month, but this year, there’s so much work to do. Brides-to-be usually use the last 1 month before the wedding to prepare, take good care of their health and skin. But for me, I am plagued with stress induced weight gain, ever growing dark eye circles, and sinus problem.

Anyway, Pakcik and I still managed to get the necessary things done and we had our Guo Da Li (Betrothal) on Xmas eve. My mum checked the lunar calendar and said that it’s auspicious to Guo Da Li on that day between 9-11am, hence we obeyed.

Guo Da Li

These are the stuff which Pakcik brought over to my house on that day. The items which my mum requested are the simplified version of the traditional Hokkien Guo Da Li (for practical reason).

What she requested:

1) 1 pair of dragon candles and 1 pair of phoenix candles (to light on the actual wedding day)
2) 2 bottles of liquor
3) 12 Oranges
4) 12 cans of pig trotter (to replace the traditional raw pig trotter)
5) 12 boxes of wedding cakes (for distribution to relatives)
6) 2 packets of Bai He (dried Lily bulb – to symbolize 百年好合)
7) 1 pair of dragon and phoenix bangles
8) Pin Jing (Red Packet – the amount usually ends with a 8, e.g. $1888, $2888 etc. )

For the wedding cakes, I chose the swiss rolls from Rich and Good Cake Shop. I told my mum that we are not getting the traditional wedding cake/pastry because of practical reason. We believed that people don’t really like to eat the traditional cake/pastry, so we rather get the stuff that people will appreciate instead of throwing them into the bin after receiving.
Result: Relatives and friends love the swiss rolls and ate all of them immediately.

Pakcik ordered the swiss rolls 2 weeks in advance because we know that the Rich and Good Cake Shop is very popular and the aunties there are very busy. The staff even paste the double happiness stickers on each box (foc) and even gave Pakcik a discount. Pakcik said that the aunties were very friendly when he placed the orders, unlike the online reviews saying that they were rude. I think customers must understand that they are running a small business and they may get too busy to entertain fickle-minded customers or customers who delay their sales process.
P.S. I love the durian and kaya flavor!

dragon phoenix bangle

For the pair of dragon and phoenix bangles, we got it from Harlyn Gems & Jewellery in Jurong Point. They had a promotion which waived the workmanship fees. Hence, Pakcik only paid for the current retail price of 24K gold and 7% GST.

Guo Da Li 1

These are my dowry set (嫁妆/回礼), simplified version. The items are:

1) Prosperity Descendant Pail Set consisting of Baby bath tub, wash basin, potty, mug, and tray (to symbolize fertility)
2) Wedding Ceremony Tea Set
3) Wedding Ceremony Bowl Set
4) A pair of wedding lamps
5) Needle Box Set
6) Auspicious Ruler
7) Lace Red Fan
8) A pair of toothbrush
9) A pair of slippers
10) Bed sheets (I bought 2 because I am kiasu)
11) 2 bottles of Orange Soft drinks

What my mum returned to the groom-to-be from the Betrothal gifts:

1) 1 pair of phoenix candles (to light at groom’s house on wedding day)
2) 2 pairs of oranges
3) 4 cans of pig trotter
4) Red dates
5) 4 cakes
6) Red Packet (Bride’s parents cannot take all the Pin Jing so that they are not seen as greedy or selling their daughter)

After the gift exchange, we have completed the Guo Da Li ceremony.
Most of the wedding items are bought from Big Day Wedding & Gifts in Johor Bahru because the price is much cheaper.

So, 18 more days to the wedding. Am I excited? Am I nervous? Am I stressed?
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My Wedding Plan – Stage 11

It’s exactly 50 days before the Big Day! I am panicking!! Although majority of the stuff have been settled and planned, there are still many logistics to be finalised. Subconsciously I am very stressed over it. I have been having nightmares of failed wedding banquet, bridezilla outrage during wedding ceremony, etc. Plus, I have been stress eating a lot, which explains why I am getting fatter by the day. And the thought of me gaining mass makes me more stress… And the vicious cycle goes on…

So now, I am back to my To-Do-List.

1) Finalise the actual day itinerary.
2) Organise a bridesmaids meeting
3) Send photos for childhood montage
4) Send out invitation cards
5) Delegate actual day logistics
6) Print wedding photo canvas
7) Order buffet for lunch
8) Find wedding songs
9) Print casual wedding photo album
10) Decide photo booth decor
11) Decide photo reception table decor
12) Miscellaneous

For the actual day itinerary, I have drafted out the followings:

Actual Day Morning Session
1 Bride wake up 4.00am
2 Bride take light breakfast 4.30am
3 Arrival of make-up artist at bride’s place 5.00am
4 Groom wake up 6.00am
5 Groom take light breakfast 6.30am
6 Arrival of all brothers and sisters, at house respectively
(Sis ready by 6.30am)
6.45am
7 Groom give out ribbon for all drivers 6.45am
8 Final briefing to brothers/sister (by Groom & bride respectively) 7.00am
9 Groom leave house to Bride’s house
(Groom to take Hand Flower and put on 1 corsage)
7.05am
10 Arrival of videographer & photographer at Bride’s house 7.00am
11 Bride give make-up artist a red packet 7.10am
12 bro call parents-in-law that we are moving off 7.10am
13 Groom reach Bride’s house 7.20am
14 Boy opens door for Groom 7.25am
15 Groom gives red packet to boy 7.25am
16 Groom’s gatecrash 7.30am
17 Groom enters room to Bride
– Groom gives hand flower to Bride
– Groom uncover veil of Bride and kiss her
– Photo taking
8.10am
18 Gathers all bros & jiemeis, ready to move off 8.30am
19 Bride to remember to throw the Fan from car 8.35am
20 Outdoor Photoshoot 9.00am
21 Bride & Groom proceed to Groom’s house 09.50am
22 Bro call Groom’s mum to inform her that we are moving off to her venue 09.50am
23 Bride & Groom reach Groom’s house 10.10am
24 Someone opens door for Bride 10.10am
25 Bride gives red packet to the Someone 10.10am
26 Tea ceremony at Groom’s house 10.20am
27 Photo-taking at Groom’s house 10.45am
28 Groom & Bride eat wedding item 10.50am
29 Bride change to Qua dress 10.55am
30 Gathers all bros & jiemeis, ready to move off 11.10am
31 Bro to call parents-in-law that we are going over 11.10am
32 Bride & Groom reach parents-in-laws’ house 11.30am
33 Tea Ceremony at Bride’s house – 1 sis to coordinate 11.30am
34 Lunch at Bride’s house 11-1pm
35 Groom & Bride eat wedding item 12pm
36 Videographer and photographer leaves to edit video 12pm
37 All bros & jiemeis free to go home to rest and change. Deluxe room available for jiemeis 1pm
38 Call hotel the estimated arrival time (call 30 mins in advanced) 1pm
39 Load all logistics to car 1 1.15pm
40 Proceed to Hotel, MBS 1.30pm
41 Check-in Bridal Suite 2pm
42 Rest for all 2-4.30pm
Actual Day Evening Session (4.30pm)
1 Arrival of Make-up artist at MBS Changing Room 3.30pm
2 Bros & Jiemeis arrive in MBS 4.30pm
3 Check set up of Solemnization Tables and Chairs 4.30pm
4 Play through all videos and photos 4.30pm
5 Label the VIP table 4.30pm
6 Setup guest list and ang bao boxes 4.30pm
7 Photo Table set up 4.30pm
8 Final check through of all tables and wedding favours 4.30pm
9 Check photo booth balloons 4.30pm
10 Check wedding bands and flowers 5.00pm
11 Check all Solemnization Paperworks 5.00pm
12 Discussion with Banquet Manager 5.00pm
13 Rehearsal starts for Banquet Manager, Emcees 5.00pm
14 Final Briefing to all brothers and sisters on their roles
– Brief on activation of poppers
– ToDo List
5.00pm
15 Arrival of videographer and photographer 5.30pm
16 Arrival of JP 5.30pm
17 Solemnization 6.00pm
18 Photo taking 6.20pm
19 Ensure champagne is ready 6.30pm
20 Ensure cake knife is present 6.30pm
21 Ensure correct number of banquet tables 6.30pm
22 Check through morning gate crash video 6.30pm
23 Refer to Banquet Proceedings 6.30pm
24 Start of Photo Booth 6.30pm
25 Arrival of Emcee 6.30pm
26 Arrival of Guests 7pm
27 Reception 7pm
28 Bride & Groom arrive at Reception 7pm
29 Banquet starts 7.45-8pm
30 Videographer and photographer leaves 11.00pm

There might be changes to the itinerary, but for now, I think it looks fine. Hopefully, there won’t be too much delays on the actual day.

My Wedding Plan – Stage 9

As you may have already noticed, I am a kiasu bride. I like to get my things done early so that I will not panic when it’s near the big day. I read reviews that couples normally buy the Guo Da Li stuff about 1 month before the big day. But for me, I can’t wait till so late, so I dragged Pakcik to the wedding gift shops last month. We have been to:

– The Chinese Wedding Shop in JCube
– Yuan Xi Wedding & Gifts in Chinatown Complex
– K.K Marriage Goods in Chinatown Complex

But we didn’t get any of their stuff. Although they have everything we need for the Guo Da Li, I felt that the prices are not very friendly. Basically, the items are similar to those I saw in TaoBao, but overpriced (in comparison). For example, a pair of husband and wife slippers only cost RMB9.48, but they are sold at $12.90 and above in the shops here. The wedding lamps are only RMB 7.72 in TaoBao, but $15.90 and above here.
So, being a thrifty bride-to-be, I have decided to research for shops in Johor Bahru that sells items are reasonable prices. I did not buy from TaoBao because the shipping fees will jack up the prices.

There is a shop in City Square, and one in Holiday Plaza. But Pakcik said that the prices are more or less the same as Singapore. My auntie has offered to help me buy the stuff in Batu Pahat, where prices will be comparable to TaoBao, but I did not want to trouble her.
Finally, after some research, I found this shop named Big Day Wedding & Gifts in Johor Bahru. It’s formally known as Coupe de Marriage.

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Guo Da Li

The shop is located just next street from the seafood zi char place. About 10-15 mins drive from the checkpoint. There are a few parking lots outside the shop reserved for customers. Otherwise, just find another parking lots around the area. It’s Malaysia, parking space is hardly a problem.

The shop sells dowry package set at RM288, which includes everything you need. I went for ala carte because I have already bought some of the items. There are plenty of stuff in the shop and I was so spoilt for choice.  Keeping in mind that I have to stick to the budget (otherwise it defeats the purpose of buying from JB), I went to choose the lower end items.

Dowry Set

These are the stuff I bought from the shop last weekend.

Wedding Tea Set

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I chose this tea set as it’s very cute. There is a chinese wedding version and angmo version. Check out it’s website for more varieties.

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I have the needles and threads already, so I only got the sewing box.

Wedding Bowl

For the bowl set, I got the Chinese couple version too.

Wedding Lamp

For the lamp, I got this battery operated one. Since we are only using it for 1 night, I chose the cheapest option.

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Ruler is part of the dowry set too. My mum still keeps hers in the cupboard. =)

Dowry

This comes in a set (RM50), but it can be bought separately as well.

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Wedding Stickers

The total cost for the stuff I bought is RM 178.

The best thing I like about Big Day Wedding & Gifts is the super friendly boss. She is very helpful in answering queries and gives great suggestions. She knew I was on a budget so she recommended me to get the best valued items. I think if you have a car and time, it’s worth going to this shop in JB and get everything you need.

Big Day Wedding & Gifts
88, Jalan Tombak 1, Taman Sri Tebrau, Johor Bahru
Opens daily from 10.30am to 8pm.